The book goes on to describe what
attachment is and I think that is obvious. Infants who become close
to parents or other caregivers have a higher tendency to be amiable,
independent, self-confident children. Those who are not attached to
their parents or caregiver may lead them to become immature,
unpopular and prone to disruptive behavior. The attachment is
important in adolescence too.
Researches have found common categories
of ways to parent. The ideal way is authoritative parenting.
This is when the caregiver provides a loving and supportive home,
have high expectations, and let children in the decision making.
These children normally turn out to be happy, energetic, confident
and self-reliant. As a result they make friends easily with their
good social skills and are sympathetic. Another result is that the
children do better in academics. This is the way teachers should
treat their students in the classroom. However in some situations
authoritative parenting may not be best.
(A
loving, inspiring, high standard family that everyone deserves.)
Caregivers
who are Asian American may exercise authoritarian
parenting where they are controlling.
Usually
the students do well in school. With Asian American students they put high
expectations on obedience and those who follow the principles of
Confucianism do not question a parent. The book does not have
studies about how the last two styles do. In low-income
neighborhoods an authoritarian parenting style may be best because
with danger lurking around the corner (good phrase from Ormrod) they
may need to be strict. Trying to communicate high standards may not
be able to be done because of the stressful situation. A caregiver
may work a lot and be too exhausted to explain why a certain behavior
is wrong.
Teachers
should not point fingers but do the best they can on treating
students no matter what the parenting style. Not just parenting
problems provide a challenge but also mental illness, marital
conflict, etc. can be a challenge to deal with. Parenting styles
seem only to have a moderate effect on students' personalities. Many
children thrive despite inadequate parenting styles unless they have
a situation dominated by abuse and neglect. A teacher needs to be on
the lookout for child maltreatment. Bruises, lack of warm clothes
when it's cold, chronic hunger are some signs. Obviously
mistreatment will hamper their experience in school. A teacher has
an obligation to report to the proper authorities when they suspect
abuse.
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